“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11

Putting away childish things means we need to focus on more grown-up ones. There’s not much more of a “grown up” topic than sex.

It’s funny, isn’t it? Everyone else in the world talks about sex but we in the Church rarely do. When we do, it’s in hushed tones or secret meetings. We serve the God who created sex as a gift for us . . .but we don’t want to talk about it.

And that’s a problem.

A few years back, I was in a Bunco group with some women from my church. We were eating our snacks, chatting in my friend’s kitchen. The conversation turned toward husbands, children, marriage . . . and, well, you know. The rest of us were laughing and having a good time–until one young mom looked up from table with tears in her eyes. She looked me dead in the face and stated, “I hate sex.”


But, I understand.

If you’re a young mom who is trying so hard to keep a work, life, child, marriage balance, the topic of sex can be exhausting.

If you’re a woman in her 40’s and above in culture that celebrates youth and a skewed standard of  beauty and desirability, the topic of sex and sexuality can be depressing.

If you’re a wife whose husband struggles with pornography and it’s destroying your marriage–and yet you have nowhere trusted to turn to talk about it–the topic of sex can be alarming.

If you’re a teenager who feels the culture pressuring you to think that sexuality is both the “most important thing in the world” and yet “no big deal” all at the same time–the topic of sexuality can be confusing.

While this post originally invited you to an event (which is now passed) that offered help and hope on these topics, we hope one of these articles from our web site can help–

Restoring a marriage after sexual sin

Learning from your past ( featuring Shannon Ethridge )

Teens, modesty, and purity

Sexual purity

Overcoming sexual sin

One Response to "A grown-up marriage discussion"

  • paul tallman says:

    It looks like these books might be very good. John Paul II had a lot to say on the subject as well in his Theology of the Body. Christopher West does a great job of bringing the topic to a level that everyone can appreciate and understand. I haven’t ready it, but I’ve heard that John Paul II’s Love and Responsibility is a great book on the subject as well. I think these resources can transform the way we look at sex and better understand the gift of sexuality that God has given us.

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